Happy New Year

Happy New Year! This is a time of releasing the old and beginning anew. It is time of reflecting on from whence you came and setting goals to move you in the direction you would like to go.

This year I will be writing Mary’s Musings instead of Something to Contemplate, which will be shorter and come every week or two.

I am in the process publishing my new book, The Parent Guidebook, hopefully by the end of February. It contains guidelines on childrearing from infancy to adulthood, pregnancy, postpartum depression, healthy eating, supplements for infants, children and adults and recipes. I will keep you posted.


As I sat reflecting on last year and considering what goals I wanted to set for this year, the thought came to mind that I should give up sugar for the year. This came during the withdrawal I was undergoing from imbibing in too much sugar on cookie baking day and Christmas Eve. I love sugar, always overindulge, and always feel horrible for the two days of withdrawal it takes to get it out of my system.  As I considered this huge goal, I thought, “Well I could have sugar on birthdays, holidays, of course cookie baking days …”  This was not feeling right when I considered all the birthdays I would be celebrating, the holidays …  Then along came the following from a class I am taking:

Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness.

The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.

All sorts of things occur to help one that would otherwise never have occurred.

A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings, and material assistance,

which no one would have believed would have come his way.

~ Goethe

Dang!  Therein lies the problem. I was not committing to the goal. I had to commit to the goal and to myself to be able to move forward on this.

As I discussed setting goals for health with my patients, I would hear… It’s hard… No one supports me in this… I’m just going to continue on as I am and be miserable…

Yes, it is hard.  Making changes in your life is pretty much an inside job and can be a lonely path. You have to commit to you; put some steel in your spine and do what is right for you.  If you do this, I can promise the results will be amazing.

For myself, making this commitment to no sugar shall pass my lips for one year, has been huge.  On the other hand, once I made the commitment, it became easy.  Who can argue with this direct statement: No sugar.  The longer I go without sugar, the less I crave it and the better I feel.  I am also putting my attention on other activities I love and want to bring into my life.  Sure there will be times I will be on the lonely path as everyone is eating cake and I am not.  However, remaining committed to myself feels really good and my body and mind thanks me for this.


  1. Take some time to reflect on 2011.  What are you happy about?  What are you sad about?  What did you accomplish?  What didn’t you accomplish?
  2. Pick one thing you will commit to yourself to do this year.  It may be for your health, relationships, creativity, your community or having more fun.
  3. Write this in your calendar and monitor your progress weekly and monthly.
  4. Tell people what your commitment is.  Outside accountability can be valuable when you want to blow off the commitment.
  5. Just do it!  Life is short!  You  don’t want to get to the end of your days and realize how much time you wasted on insignificant, unimportant activities.

Commitment is what transforms the promise into reality.
It is the words that speak boldly of your intentions.

And the actions which speak louder than the words.
It is making the time when there is none.
Coming through time after time after time, year after year after year.
Commitment is the stuff character is made of;
The power to change the face of things.
It is the daily triumph of integrity over skepticism


Commitment – Sticking with something long after the mood you have said it in has left you.[2]

Till next time ~ Mary

Mary’s Musings are a random thought. It may be a quote, a question, an idea, or something happening in the world. Enjoy a moment to yourself and contemplate this thought. Ask yourself how it feels and where it leads. Breathe . . . and see where her musings take you.


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